Here’s what to do when you feel stuck in life

Abby Angel

2021-02-04

We live in such a fast-paced life, and sometimes we bombard ourselves with too many expectations only to find ourselves disappointed, in a rut and demotivated. Acknowledge that it is normal to fall but what matters is the determination to get back up again. Here are some valuable tips on what to do when you’re feeling stuck in life or in-a-rut.

Do a self-evaluation.

Stop overthinking. Instead, start listening to your body and your thoughts. Get a pen and a paper and write everything down: all the feelings, the worries, the pain, the frustrations. You are breaking down its and bits of every thought you have inside your head. That will clarify what you need to prioritize in life. That way, you can align it with your goals and aspirations. Now, why is self-evaluation critical? When you evaluate something, you are merely making a judgment. By doing a self-evaluation, you can have a clearer perspective of your character and your life. Self-discovery is very important because it is crucial to know your “why”–your purpose in life. That way, whatever it is you’re doing in the present is all for the future’s betterment.

Start doing something.

You have to be able to find things to do, things that capture your interest or motivate you. Read blogs about how you feel, get insight from other people, and know that they have also been in your shoes, which means that you are not alone in that journey, it also proves that it’s normal to have those feelings. Reading and journaling are helpful mechanisms; writing down your thoughts will give you clarity and peace of mind. Lastly, try to get in some exercise throughout your day. Experts have said when you exercise; your body releases chemicals called endorphins. Endorphins are chemicals produced by the body to relieve stress and pain.

Share your stuckness.

During these challenging times that we aren’t able to be physically there for one another. Thank God that reaching out to your family and friends in this day and age is just one video call or chat away. Therefore, don’t isolate yourself from people who genuinely care for you. You will need some time alone, but to bottle up emotions is a dead end; it will do you no good in the long run. Talking to friends or someone you can trust will help. If you still don’t feel like sharing with someone, you can release your emotions through journaling. Feel the emotion, whether it’s happy or sad, calm or frustrated. Share your stuckness with someone or share it in your diary.

Encourage yourself.

Encouragement, according to Oxford, means the action of giving someone support, confidence, or hope. More often than not, we provide these three acts more to other people and less to ourselves. Why? Well, If we were to make friends? We should be friends with who we are first. It is vital to love yourself first, which also means to love others. If you are supportive, confident, and hopeful to yourself, imagine how much more you can give to the people around you. What you have in you is also what you give out. Start listening to motivational podcasts, reading self-help books, unfollowing social media accounts that make you feel less of who you are, as well as unfollowing people, deleting social media apps for detox. Whatever it is that you know will help you become a better person without harming others, DO IT!

Take it one at a time.

Let’s be honest; these five steps will take months after concluding that they have worked. Know that along the path of getting yourself out of this rut will be a series of waves; there will be ups and downs. No biggie, fall seven times and get back up at 8. That’s how life is. Take baby steps, don’t rush your progress, and, most importantly, DON’T EVER COMPARE YOUR PROGRESS TO OTHERS’ PROGRESS. God has His perfect time for everything, and that includes you! Have faith that God has incredible, nope, beautiful things planned for you!